The Calm that Comes with the Familiar

There are days that Izzy and I jump in the car and head for a forest preserve to do our daily walk together, but most days, we take advantage of the sidewalks in our own neighborhood.  In fact, I have found that if I take Izzy somewhere new or different, she doesn’t seem settled until we have walked around our own neighborhood.  Perhaps for Izzy and me, the familiar brings a certain amount of calm.  For me, I don’t have to think too hard on where I am going and can instead let my thoughts flow in and out.  I find that I am constantly learning new things about my neighborhood of close to 500 homes.  Who is moving?  Who has a teenager graduating?  Ooohhh….new outdoor furniture.  Nice.  Lately, I have been focusing on what plants my neighbors are having success with and figuring out what I want for my own yard.  I enjoy seeing friendly faces in the morning that greet me with a smile and I even get a kick out of figuring out ways to avoid those few who don’t.  Izzy seems to have her own needs of the familiar. At six years old, she has finally stopped trying to herd every bicyclist in the neighborhood and we both know which dogs are of no interest to her and which ones she would like to tear apart.  Her favorite thing though is peeing in the same spots each day.

Recently, my son couldn’t sleep and ended up taking a very early morning walk.  Out of curiosity, I asked which paths he took.  He shared how he left our neighborhood and visited the one next to ours.  He mentioned a path he found that connected our two neighborhoods together.  What?  I have walked this neighborhood daily for the last six years.  How could I miss this path?  Whenever I have decided to extend my walk to the next neighborhood, I have always taken the long way around, thinking there had to be a quicker/easier way.

Yesterday I decided to do a little exploring.  Although I feel like I have walked every street in our neighborhood, I never walk the cul-de-sacs.  This must be where the mystery path was hidden.  The first two did not expose any hidden paths.  Then as I approached the third one I could see a path.  I couldn’t see from a distance where it lead, but it was a path.  It was like a shining light came down on this path.  I had found the right place.  I felt relief.  Izzy and I headed down the path and found it lead to a dead end. Disappointed, we headed back to the main path.  The fourth cul-de-sac did not unveil any hidden paths.  On the way home, I felt a conflict in my head going on.  Did I want to continue the search the next day or was I content to continue following the path I have been to the next neighborhood?

My walks with Izzy always provide me with time to think and reflect.  Yesterday’s walking experience allowed me to reflect on my health.  Lately I have found myself feeling the need to revamp my overall health plan. Currently, I am following the familiar path of taking medications for my rheumatoid arthritis, but it doesn’t always feel right to me. When I chose to go back on medications, it was with the understanding that I would take them as long as I felt comfortable with that decision. I can’t say I am completely uncomfortable taking them right now, but definitely starting to think of how to change things up a bit.  Medications are often like my walks through our neighborhood, I don’t have to think too hard about what I am doing which does create a certain amount of calm.  It also allows me time to rest my brain from so many years of experimenting with alternative treatments while also looking around at what others are doing to see what fits my lifestyle. This time with the familiar has allowed me to do a little research into some things I would like to try in the future.

The basic belief system I had when I started this blog in 2008 hasn’t changed.  I still believe the body wants to heal.  In many ways my body has healed, but not to a point I can easily go off the medications yet.  Like my walk yesterday, I haven’t found the path that my body needs to get me to the next place, but this time on medications is allowing me to explore while not feeling pain.  Since my rheumatoid arthritis diagnosis, I have definitely discovered many paths to wellness, but something is still missing.  My body still has lot of room to heal, but I need to keep searching for the path that is perfect for my individual body.  The one thing I have accepted while chasing each of these different paths is that what I am looking for may not come easily or with a lot of guidance.  There will be many dead ends. That is why it is so important to continue to be patient, open minded, and most of all continue to nourish myself both physically and mentally.  With time, the path that is perfect for my body will be discovered.  For now, I will continue to enjoy the calm that comes with the familiar.          

7 thoughts on “The Calm that Comes with the Familiar

  1. “I still believe the body wants to heal.”

    It is so true. Human body is capable of much more than we usually think. I wish for you that you will feel much better and will get rid of the medications. It might take a long time, but you definitely seem to know what you are doing.


  2. It is uncanny how similar our thoughts run in respect to our outlook of what it means to live with RA and our journey to wellness. My usual comment is that I believe the body wants to be well, but instead of a path, I'm looking for a key.

    In the meantime, we do what works – we listen to our body, give it what it needs, and continue to explore, noticing when we feel better emotionally, mentally and physically.

    This is a great post, Cathy! Here's to more moments of calm, which in and of itself are healing.


  3. Karen


    I enjoy reading your own reflections. One thing I am really coming to realize is how much we need to listen to our bodies. I feel like the biggest life lesson is the one you hear at take off on every flight – secure your own oxygen mask first, before assisting others. I have to put myself first, and in doing so, I need to listen to and attend to my needs. So now, if I need a nap, or to go to bed early, I do. If I need to go for a run, I will – or, I will encourage my whole family to join me on a hike. My husband and I now go to yoga together one evening per week, as a regular appointment. I feel that this is helping my body to heal as much as the medication and paleo eating. I suppose that is one reason I like Mark Sisson's Primal Blueprint so much, because of his focus not only on diet but on rest and play as well. I feel connected to you and enjoy reading about your reflections on your own journey. Thanks for the inspiration!


  4. Hi Karen,
    So good to hear from you. I love that you and your husband are taking yoga together. My husband and I recently started playing tennis together. Play is important. I'm glad that things are going well for you.


  5. Hi Cathy,

    So glad things are going well. Perhaps it is a good time to explore new options – when you feel good it is easier to do the research and make a plan.

    One thing I've started to look at is FMT. Haven't found much yet, but it is intriguing. Yesterday I stumbled across something interesting on the Mayo Clinic website. I've asked my friend, who is a librarian who sometimes helps me with medical research to see what she can find out, since they didn't make any mention to their source. If I find anything interesting, I'll let you know.

    scroll to the bottom to see the mention of RA & Celiac:

    Love reading your blog, you are so inspiring.


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