After coming home last week with a much needed haircut, Steve greeted me with something like, “You can really see where your natural hair color line is.” I went into an instant panic, thinking, “Oh no, that must be a bad thing.” I asked what he meant and he explained that the line between natural and colored is more obvious now that I am eight months and half way into the process of returning my hair to its natural color. (I actually did notice the difference between natural and colored but hoped everyone else was blind to the distinct line around my head.) But, as always, he wiped away any insecurities when he said he really likes the new colors coming in and how it just looks more natural. (That is my goal!) He reassured me that the color of hair means more to women than it does men and that he finds the cut and the way the grays are coming in very attractive. Could there be a more perfect husband than mine who always makes me feel beautiful in my weak moments? I do have to admit that I like the way it is looking too and only wish it would finish growing out faster.
I haven’t searched author Anne Kreamer in a while but if you remember, I posted about her in one of my early posts and absolutely loved her book Going Gray. Here is some interesting information from a Q & A article I hadn’t read yet but that confirmed what my loving husband told me.
Q: So men don’t care about gray hair on women as much as we think they do?
A: The majority of men don’t. If a woman’s overall persona is attractive, they could care less. It’s a little bit like the proverbial: Does my butt look too big? A lot of men think “We like that!” Much of our insecurities are informed by what we see in the media. We don’t see very many sexy, interesting role models out there. There’s Helen Mirren — just look at her smile and sense of comfort in her body and clothes. What’s not to love? The sort of images we tend to see are the ‘Desperate Housewives’ view of what 40 can be like, let alone 50.
Q: So you think men are more forgiving of a woman’s aging process?
A: What it really boils down to is confidence, a sense of comfort in your body. Who wants to be with a person screaming a bunch of insecurities and feeling unsure of themselves? Gray hair color is a very vocal symbol of “I acknowledge who I am and I’m happy about it.”